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How to Professionally Hold Sacred Space

If you are being called to hold ceremonial space for others, such as council circles, coaching, guiding, and healing, then you must hold no shame about who you are. You must exude love. This means you are open– open to helping the world, sharing your time and thoughts with others, open to their judgment. At some point, you likely did not receive enough love – or at least, not in the way you really needed it. Maybe your parents were always busy, maybe they did not even love themselves, but now, you are someone who greatly values togetherness, helping people feel seen… You build a family environment everywhere you go.


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You may still be struggling to heal or forgive parts of your past —this is absolutely normal, and does not mean you are not ready to hold sacred space for others in business or elsewhere. In fact, it is usually your most difficult moments in life that become your rite of passage to this profession. You are the perfect person for this role because of your courage to embrace your imperfections. You are not afraid to be real with others; you let others know that you are truly human. You have a shared connection with anyone you meet because of your empathy, wisdom, your open mind and heart. 


Please consider the following in how to professionally hold sacred space:


  1. You have likely felt unimportant at some point on your journey. You especially feel this way when you cannot seem to hold the attention of others for very long. This is a trauma response. Allow people time to process their own thoughts, feelings, and emotions – especially if you have shared something thought-provoking or very deep. Give people time to digest what you have shared. The slower, the better! That means you are making an impact! If not, that means they are not seeking a shared connection with you, so allow them to make space for a more aligned community. 


  2. You often feel that others do not care enough about you or what you are offering them. If this is true for you, then consider that you simply need to care more about yourself! You have to fulfill yourself with the love you seek. You are called to lead with love, not ask for it. Even more likely is that you are called to teach others how to care more deeply about something you would like to bring awareness to or change. The right people will come to listen according to the intentions you set forth!


  3. You often feel judged for not doing enough. You notice every facial expression, shift in tone, what is present and not present. You constantly wonder how to improve, how to make others happy, how to make more money, and so on. If this is you, it is time to operate more from the heart and soul, rather than fear and ego of not being loved. You are loved, keep giving, and allow yourself to be enough for you. 


Strategies to even more deeply improve your capacity to hold sacred space for others:


  1. Heal your inner child: find more spaces for emotional play, creativity, and purpose. Find mentors or leaders with whom you can practice or improve and mature your emotional and spiritual health. They will give you more tools and strategies to help you be strong when serving so many other people. They will help you refine your natural gifts and teach you how to protect yourself on your highest path. 


  2. Create a joyful life: fill your time with more laughter and adventure, while creating a safe and stable container for yourself to thrive in. If you feel like you missed out on a playful childhood, or have lost years of your life due to trauma or distraction, then truly allow time to reclaim this part of your soul so that you can be a light and peaceful presence for others.


  3. Allow safe intimate relationships with the same sex/energy as you. For example, if you are a feminine energy, create strong and deep relationships with more feminines. These relationships are not sexually intimate or erotic in any way, but they are soul-deep in emotional, mental, and spiritual play. These relationships are not co-dependent either. Allow ample space between interactions, without control or attempts to fill personal voids. These relationships are mirrors for deep shadow healing and inner growth. 


  4. Exercise! Mindfully move your body! Not necessarily to lose weight, but to feel healthy and vibrant. Get outside and sweat, release the natural endorphins. Raise your natural frequency and vibration in this way so that you can have all the self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem that you need to be an exciting, inspiring, and motivating force for others – all as your most healthy version of you. Do this because you love yourself and you want to share love with so many more people...



Raileigh Easterling is the Founder of Conscious Lifestyle Coaching LLC. She is a motivational author, poet, & public speaker; a transformational retreat host & mindfulness teacher; and a business & public relations consultant. Conscious Lifestyle Coaching LLC is a sacred space for entrepreneurs, changemakers, and visionaries on the path of self-development, healing, and spirituality to experience transformation and holistic growth.



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